My Wife’s PHS

As I have written before, my view on relationships, especially on marriage, is they are all about your level of trust, understanding, and communication. To have a successful marriage, all three need to be at their peak. This does not come naturally but it requires work to create and maintain. The initial puppy love or infatuation phase far too many mistake as being “in love” doesn’t last. Additionally, one has to know what kind of traits to look for in the right one or the understanding, trust and communication will have a tough time forming for the long term.

Why is all of that so very, very important? Any husband that knows their wife knows the answer to this. But it requires the husband to focus on and truly understand his wife. For every 24 out of 30 days, life is “normal” based on the standard for the couple. However, the rules change when it comes close to that particular time of the month. Each lady is different and reacts in different ways but guys have to respond the same. Control thy tongue, respond gently, and serve them, all while doing the equivalent of duck and cover. That’s married life. If you get lucky, you have a tough lady like mine who is just sensitive and doesn’t rip your head off at the slightest thing.

No matter how hard you try though the deck may be stacked against you. This is why establishing a solid relationship based on trust, understanding, and communication is so important to have in place long in advance. You may wake up one morning to find out you are in the dog house. You may have done everything right and still you are in the dog house and confused. It just may be that your wife had a dream that night when you did something wrong in her dream. So nearing that special time of the month, it is enough to land you in the dog house. If the solid relationship has been established, patching the errors of your ways that you did in her dream may only take half a day. What you do not get to say is “But it was only a dream!” That will get you the couch.

Give of yourself and be understanding. So when the times come when she isn’t feeling good by either illness or PMS (photo from link), bedtime is the time you can become a PHS for your wife. What is a PHS? Well, I know I am my wife’s Personal Heating System.

PHS = TUC + TLC = Peace (Personal Heating System = Trust, Understanding, Communication + Tender Loving Care)

Happy Wife, Happy Life!!